DAVID PISARRA

Posts Tagged ‘custody’

DADS SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE

In child custody, Child Custody Issues, Child Support, Parental Alienation, Paternity Issues, Strategy Issues, Uncategorized on October 15, 2009 at 5:59 am

Here’s a great, and I MEAN GREAT article on holding Dads accountable! It’s the best way to increase the rights of fathers and protect fathers interests in raising their children. When more people hold fathers responsible, more fathers will BE EXPECTED to step up, and that will make it easier for all fathers to exercise their rights.

Dads, This Is Your Challenge To Step Up

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THE CATCH-22 OF CHILD SUPPORT

In Child Custody Issues, Child Support, Parental Alienation, Strategy Issues on September 9, 2008 at 2:57 pm

In the world of raising children, Moms get the right to decide if they are going to have a child, usually they decide how to raise the child, and dad gets to pay – no matter what.

Moms always have two main complaints, 1) “He’s a terrible father – he never spends any time with his child,” and 2) “Child support doesn’t even begin to cover all the costs of raising a child.” It’s the Catch-22 of child support.

Child Support doesn’t cover the costs of having a child in your possession – everyone agrees on that, which means that it is more expensive to support the child when they are in your care. So when Dad wants to take a bigger, more expensive role, in his kids life, mom says it is only to LOWER his Child Support Payments? Yes, that is how the argument goes, because it would lower his child support payments to her, but not what it costs him.

You’d think that when a Dad steps up to the plate and wants more custodial time with his child, Moms would jump at the chance to have Dad shoulder more of the burden – you’d be wrong. Mom’s argument now becomes, “He’s only doing it so he doesn’t have to pay as much child support.”

The choice for men is either be a good Dad, pay more money and ignore the complaints of Mom, or be a bad Father, pay less money and ignore the verbal abuse from Mom.

MORAL OF THE STORY: You’re going to be labeled a “bad Dad” no matter what, either you don’t spend enough time with your kids, which mom will fight you on, or you don’t give her enough money, so do what is right for your kid – be there for them. And pay your child support on time.

She’s a Bad Parent – How Can She Have Rights?

In Child Custody Issues, Parental Alienation, Strategy Issues on August 23, 2008 at 4:27 pm

This is the cry of many a father who is fighting to save his kids. Of those fathers who come to see me who want to take “full custody” or “primary custody” of their kids, many of them say things about their ex, like that.

I hear stories about moms who are prostitutes, drug abusers, alcoholics, negligent, abusive, mentally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive. I have gone up against moms who hit engage in fights with their children that end up causing scars, both physical and emotional.

The sad fact is that these moms will still get some custody and/or visitation with their children.  The reason why is that even a bad mother, has a right to see her children.

And that goes for dads as well. Even terrible, horrible, abusive fathers, have a right to see their kids. The thing to remember, is that the parents right to share in raising their children is SUPERIOR to even the best interests of the child.

Even if every judge, every lawyer, every counselor says it is in the best interests of the child to not see their parent, that parent still has a right to a relationship with that kid, and a judge will order visitation.