DAVID PISARRA

Moms Don’t Have To Account For Child Support – Dads Do!

In Child Custody Issues, Child Support, Strategy Issues on September 2, 2008 at 1:15 pm

Child custody lawyers hear it all the time, “I hate my son’s mom – she’s a liar, cheat, thief, and a slut.” We get to hear all the ugly tales of how two people “hooked up” for a night, and now it’s a lifetime commitment of fatherhood with a woman you didn’t really know, and don’t really like.

“She takes the child support I pay and gets her hair and nails done, and my kid is going without new shoes.” Yup, it’s an old story. Mom only wants the money you pay, for herself.

Sometimes.

Raising a child is expensive, and most child support doesn’t really cover all the high costs of child rearing. But, once a man has “hooked up” with a woman, and she’s pregnant, he’s on the hook for child support, and how she uses it, is her choice.

Moms Don’t Have To Account For Child Support – Dads Do!

No court will make her account for how she spends it. It’s only in the rare cases, like in Kirk Kerkorian’s child support battle, where the lifestyle of the mom, influences how much money dad pays. In Kerkorians case, mom was trying to get as much as possible from the billionaire, and claiming that the child had to have hundreds of thousands of dollars a year in support, which was absurd when she was a toddler.

But some moms think of dads as living ATMs, and there is really only one way to fight this, a father needs to have as much custodial time as possible if he wants to reduce the amount of child support he will have to pay.

The sad facts are that, once a man has made a woman pregnant, he has a responsibility to the child, not necessarily the mom. He has to account for, and be able to prove all the payments he’s made, she doesn’t have to account for how she spends it.

As a father, men have  a role to play in their children’s lives, and the courts recognize it, and it goes beyond just paying child support. Men as dads should be a positive force in their child’s life.

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  1. The best advice I received after my divorce, from other divorced fathers was, “don’t give the child support a second thought, just pay it and forget about it. You have no control over how it is spent”
    Good advice, I have many other “financial issues” with my ex, but child support is not one of them, because over the years I have tried to follow the above advice.

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